Timing
Okay. Things got worked out about the Friday night lack of communication. I did not go out with him that night even though he called and begged me to go out. By the time he called it was 6 and it was too late to get ready is what I told him.
Anyway, we got together last night for his birthday. Paul is now officially 31. So, I met him at one of the bars in Harrah's Atlantic City and watched the Eagles game with him. He was sitting with one lady who was in from Michigan. He was befriending her while her husband was playing the tables. He was also sitting with another girl who it turns out he befriended because she was all alone so he and Cathy (the woman from Michigan) asked her to join them. While he was in the bathroom the two of them told me that he was so excited about my coming. He kept checking his phone to see if I had called and worried that I was not going to show up. Cathy told me that he told Dawn, the girl sitting with them, that she would have to move down one seat when I got there. It made me feel silly for getting a little jealous when I saw her next to him talking to him when I arrived.
Point is, things seem to be going well. I like him and he seems to like me too. My only concern is that he does not know about my MS yet. I fear it may have come into play already but I didn't explain when I should have. But, when is a good time for me to tell him that I have an incurable disease that does random stuff to me? I don't want to wait too long, I don't want to wait until I have an exacerbation and I don't want to tell him too soon. I'm afraid it might scare him no matter when I tell him.
Does anyone have any suggestions? I could really really really use the advice.
Anyway, we got together last night for his birthday. Paul is now officially 31. So, I met him at one of the bars in Harrah's Atlantic City and watched the Eagles game with him. He was sitting with one lady who was in from Michigan. He was befriending her while her husband was playing the tables. He was also sitting with another girl who it turns out he befriended because she was all alone so he and Cathy (the woman from Michigan) asked her to join them. While he was in the bathroom the two of them told me that he was so excited about my coming. He kept checking his phone to see if I had called and worried that I was not going to show up. Cathy told me that he told Dawn, the girl sitting with them, that she would have to move down one seat when I got there. It made me feel silly for getting a little jealous when I saw her next to him talking to him when I arrived.
Point is, things seem to be going well. I like him and he seems to like me too. My only concern is that he does not know about my MS yet. I fear it may have come into play already but I didn't explain when I should have. But, when is a good time for me to tell him that I have an incurable disease that does random stuff to me? I don't want to wait too long, I don't want to wait until I have an exacerbation and I don't want to tell him too soon. I'm afraid it might scare him no matter when I tell him.
Does anyone have any suggestions? I could really really really use the advice.
posted by Tracie @ Monday, October 03, 2005
2 Comments:
At 2:19 PM ,
MacGirl said...
Well I'm going to tell you what you probably already know. . .if it scares him then it's his problem and you're better off with someone who will be interested in you - all of you. I don't know when a good time will be to tell him. Maybe you should so you know if he's going to still be interested, the sooner the better. or maybe you wait and he falls so deeply in love he won't care :) well he'll care of course, but.. .you know what I mean.
At 3:39 PM ,
gingrpchy said...
I don't think there is ever going to be a "good time." Avoid obvious "bad times" like birthdays and holidays (trust me, that hangs over you forever!) . Otherwise you're just going to have to decide on a day and go for it. I say the sooner the better. It seems like you've been with him long enough to guess that he's interested in seeing where this goes.
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